How Cape Flats' mothers struggle with family members' drug addiction

Mothers on the Cape Flats have opened up about their heartbreaking battles with family members addicted to drugs.

In recognition of the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children campaign, Heideveld Library dedicated this year’s programme to exploring the impact of substance abuse within homes — a persistent issue affecting daily life in the community, Daily Voice reports.

To spark dialogue and reflection, the library hosted an author talk with Lakeside-based writer Sylvia Walker, author of Dealing in Death: Ellen Pakkies and a Community’s Struggle with Tik.

The event, held last Wednesday, encouraged residents to reflect on how drugs continue to shape families and communities. Walker also revisited the ongoing relevance of her 2010 publication.

Her central message highlighted the need for family members to care for themselves while living with or supporting someone struggling with addiction.

“People often believe that once the addict receives help, everything will fall into place. However, families also need boundaries, coping mechanisms and community support to navigate the situation,” she said.

Attendee Lorraine Joshua from Heideveld said the session gave her valuable insight. “Knowing people in my own family who face addiction, I never realised how severe the impact can be.

“Hearing other people’s experiences made me see that some situations are even worse than your own. We must listen, learn and share whatever we can — even small advice can help someone else.”

Lilian Richards shared her story as a mother who had survived a dangerous situation involving her ex-husband, whose addiction turned abusive.

She said the session reminded her how close she came to harm and stressed the importance of seeking help.

“What I went through was difficult, but I came out of it, and I want other women to know they are not alone,” she said.

Heideveld librarian Nuhaa Portland said the book had been borrowed only three times, most recently in 2022, but she believes many could still benefit from its guidance. Books not borrowed within three years are typically removed from shelves, but Portland said this title remains particularly relevant for its advice on family coping strategies.

Pastor Bernard Johnson of Heideveld Outreach Ministry reflected on the role of love and faith in recovery, sharing how his own journey had shaped his approach to addiction.

“Faith has been a big part of my journey. Communities should not turn their backs on people who are struggling. Love wins them,” he said.

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