Positive role models empower men to break free of stereotypes

MATLABA MACHETE

In a world where societal norms are in constant flux, one of the most profound shifts is the evolution of masculinity. Once confined to rigid definitions of strength, endurance, and dominance, masculinity is being reshaped into something far more inclusive and compassionate. As we come to the end of the 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children tomorrow, we honour the men who defy outdated stereotypes and champion for understanding of what it means to be a man.

For generations, masculinity has been defined by narrow societal standards. Men were expected to embody strength, emotional control, and financial prowess, often at the expense of vulnerability, empathy, and personal growth. Today, however, more men are breaking free from these confines, embracing a fuller spectrum of human experience. They are rewriting the script, not just for themselves but for the society that looks to them for guidance and inspiration.

Role models profoundly shape our perceptions of ourselves and the world around us. Yet, in popular culture, men are often caricatured as either hyper-aggressive heroes or bumbling figures of mockery. These one-dimensional portrayals do more harm than good, reinforcing the idea that masculinity must fit within rigid, outdated molds.

Positive male role models challenge these stereotypes. They show that strength lies in vulnerability, that courage includes asking for help, and that true greatness is measured by how we uplift others. The father who listens patiently, the coach who values teamwork over individual glory, and the teacher who encourages boys to express their emotions freely, exemplify the power of positive masculinity.

These role models remind us that masculinity is not a pillar or monument. It is a diverse and evolving concept, enriched by qualities like empathy, kindness, and integrity.

One of the most encouraging signs of change is the shift in how fatherhood is perceived. Modern fathers are no longer solely defined by their ability to provide financially. They are nurturers, educators, and emotional anchors for their children. By defying the stereotype of the distant, stoic provider, these men are creating more balanced and fulfilling family dynamics.

The same transformation is occurring in media portrayals. Films, television shows, and advertisements are beginning to depict men as multidimensional characters — individuals with varied personalities, experiences, and struggles. This shift helps dismantle the harmful notion that masculinity must fit a single narrative.

Moreover, men are becoming allies in the fight for gender equality, challenging toxic masculinity, promoting consent, and advocating for respectful relationships. These actions do not diminish masculinity; they strengthen it by fostering a culture that values dignity, respect, and fairness for all.

One of the most damaging myths about masculinity is that vulnerability is a weakness. In reality, opening up about struggles, especially mental health challenges, requires tremendous courage. Acknowledging this courage is the first step toward breaking the stigma surrounding men’s mental health.

Strength is not just about physical endurance, it is about resilience, self-awareness, and the willingness to seek support when needed. By challenging stereotypes that dictate how men should express their emotions, we can create space for honest conversations about mental well-being.

Support systems like the Gauteng Social Development Men’s Forum, Sonke Gender Justice, FAMSA, and other organizations are instrumental in providing resources and safe spaces for men to share their experiences. These initiatives, along with workplace policies promoting mental health and open dialogue, play a crucial role in redefining masculinity.

Let us celebrate men who inspire us and commit to becoming positive role models ourselves. Mentor a colleague, challenge harmful stereotypes, or simply lead with kindness and understanding. Show the next generation that it is okay to love deeply, to feel uncertain, to cry, and to grow.

By fostering environments that celebrate the diversity of masculinity, we empower men to live authentically and meaningfully. A great man is not defined by his accomplishments but by the legacy of kindness, courage, and integrity he leaves behind. Let’s all encourage society to redefine what it means to be a role model.

Matlaba Machete, Gauteng Department of Social Development.

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